Potty Training Regression? Here’s What to Do
It can be disappointing to discover that your little one is having “accidents.” Here you thought you were past the diaper stage. Now, suddenly, your child is having what you suspect is a potty training regression.
But is it really something to worry about? Will it pass? And if not, what do you do? Here’s what you need to know.
In This Article
- What is Potty Training Regression?
- FIRST: Have Your Child Receive a Checkup
- Common Reasons it Happens (Plus Tips)
- Need a Helping Hand?
What is Potty Training Regression?
It’s important to know that occasional slip-ups are normal in children under age five. It is probably NOT a true regression if:
- potty accidents are very occasional
- accidents tend to happen when you’re out, or are a distance from a bathroom
- your child puts off pottying until the last minute because they’re involved in their play
However, it MAY BE a true regression if:
- your child has gone some time without any accidents, but now is having them frequently
- the issue goes on for more than two weeks
FIRST: Have Your Child Receive a Checkup
If your child’s pottying habits change drastically, it is a good idea to seek the advice of your child’s pediatrician FIRST.
There can be various medical reasons for sudden pottying accidents. A urinary tract infection, constipation or diarrhea, a recent illness, or a recent injury are a few reasons some children may regress temporarily with their toilet habits.
Be casual about the doctor’s visit: let your little one know that it is time for a checkup. DO NOT shame your child or make any of this seem like a punishment.
Common Reasons for Potty Training Regression
Remember: potty training regression is not your fault or your child’s fault. Accidents are common, especially among children who have recently mastered using the potty.
Here are some common reasons your child may be having accidents, and what to do:
A New Sibling
A new baby in the house, or a new adopted or foster sibling, can upset your child’s routine. This may happen even if your child seems happy about the new family member. Your child may unconsciously regress because babies or “new” children get attention.
What to Do: Although your hands are full at this time, make a point of paying attention to your little one. If you have a partner, switch off with one of you spending special time with your youngster while the other of you cares for the baby.
A Change in Routine
A new daycare, a friend moving to a new place, being on vacation, having family or friends stay for the weekend or other changes can mean a toileting regression for your little one.
What to Do: DO NOT make a big deal of the accident, especially in front of friends or family members. Casually tell your child, “oops, let’s go to your room for a minute,” then change them. Remind your child to let you know when they need to potty. Your child will probably stop having accidents once the excitement is over.
Your Child Has Been Ill
If your child has been sick and has gotten a clean bill of health from the doctor, they may still be feeling “off,” achy, overly tired, and generally less able to handle things. This can last for about a week (or longer if the illness was serious).
What to Do: Play potty accidents down. Let your child help change themselves so they get back in touch with what the body is doing.
You Moved House
The leadup to moving house can upset your child’s schedule. You are probably busy packing things up and making arrangements. Your child may feel temporarily neglected in the process. They may also be distressed at the thought of leaving the home they have known.
What to Do: Let your child help pack up their belongings so they can see that things aren’t “just going away.” Let them keep out several toys (three maximum) plus their lovey, if they use one. If possible, show your child pictures of the new house. Take them for a ride to see the house in person from the outside. This will all help allay your child’s fears and may even get them excited for the move.
There is Conflict in the Home
It can happen in any home, so if you and your significant other have been arguing, you’re not alone. Do not feel guilty, but do know that children absorb much more than we think they do. Because you and your spouse are their whole world, your child may be frightened by arguments and may subconsciously wish to return to being a baby, when things were “easy.”
What to Do: Sit down and talk to your child about how loved ones sometimes argue, but that you all love one another. It is best if you both sit down with your child so they can see you are in agreement and on good terms.
If you and your spouse need counseling, don’t be ashamed: it could be the best thing you’ve ever done. Otherwise, try to keep your cool, even when you think your child is asleep. Try to learn how to resolve conflicts lovingly.
Need a Helping Hand?
Sometimes, parents can be stymied by their child’s potty training regression. If your child is healthy per their pediatrician, and the usual tips aren’t working, contact me! I’ve worked with hundreds of families to get their child back on track.
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